Teacher stress during long holidays should be low. Right? Think again. While long holidays should feel restful, for many teachers they’re anything but. Family demands, life admin, and exhaustion can leave you more drained than term time. Here’s why it happens — and how to reclaim small pockets of energy and control.
The Break That Isn’t a Break
If you’ve ever reached the end of a long holiday and thought, “How am I still this tired?”, you’re not alone.
Teachers often imagine summer or mid-year holidays as a reset button. A chance to breathe. Maybe even a chance to “finally get on top of things”.
But here’s the kicker:
Long breaks don’t remove stress — they simply change the shape of it.
They swap classroom intensity for the 24/7 demands of family life, social expectations, and all the jobs you never get to during term time.
And as a dad of three primary-school-aged kids (6, 8, and 10), trust me… I get it. Even with the best intentions, holidays can hit like a tidal wave.
The Summer I Checked Out
Let me tell you about this past summer.
I showed up for everything — family events, days out, visiting relatives, keeping the kids entertained, the whole lot.
On the surface, I was present.
But inside?
Whenever I got even a sliver of time to myself, I was a shell.
No energy.
No spark.
No motivation to do the things I’d planned for my wellbeing.
I wasn’t lazy.
I wasn’t ungrateful.
I was burnt out.
And if any of that sounds familiar, that’s because so many teachers carry the same weight during long holidays.
Why Long Holidays Create Unexpected Stress
Teachers face a unique cocktail of pressures when school breaks roll around. Some are obvious; some are hidden below the surface.
Here are the big ones:
1. The sudden loss of structure
Term time may be intense, but it’s predictable.
Holidays? Not so much.
No timetable
No bells
No clear “start” or “finish”
Constant task-switching
The brain likes rhythm. When it disappears, so does your sense of control.
2. Family life becomes your full-time job
Many teachers say, “At least I’ll get time with my family.”
Which is great — but it’s not rest.
Especially if you’ve got younger kids.
The pace changes from “busy in school” to “busy at home”, often with less psychological space, because you’re responsible for everyone’s needs all day.
3. The mental load spikes
Term time has its own mental load. But holidays? They bring:
Planning childcare
Organising outings
Coordinating family visits
Juggling everyone’s schedules
Keeping the house from exploding
This is invisible labour — and it’s exhausting.
4. You still think you should “use your time wisely”
Teachers put pressure on themselves to:
prep for next term
catch up on home projects
“finally get healthy again”
read that book
get back into exercise
organise the cupboards
do set-up work they don’t have time for in school
It’s ambition overload — and it creates a weird guilt loop.
You feel like you should be relaxing, but also achieving.
Lose-lose.
5. Unrealistic expectations sneak in
Precision Nutrition calls this out beautifully:
We imagine our “future holiday self” as someone with boundless energy. Someone who wakes up early, drinks water, meditates, exercises, meal-preps, resets the house, and gets the whole family in a peaceful routine.
But real life happens.
And the disappointment hits hard.
6. Social commitments explode
Summer especially becomes a social blitz:
weddings
BBQs
weekends away
playdates
family gatherings
“we must catch up this summer!” invites
It’s rarely restful.
7. You’re carrying unresolved term-time fatigue
This is the one nobody talks about.
By the end of term, most teachers are already depleted.
Holidays don’t fix that overnight — they only remove one source of stress, while life quickly fills the gap.
Is This Teacher Burnout? Maybe.
Teacher burnout is more than feeling tired.
It’s chronic stress that chips away at:
your energy
your hope
your patience
your health
your identity
Long holidays often reveal the burnout that was building during term time.
Not because you’re doing “less”, but because your body finally loses the adrenaline that was holding you together.
Why This Isn’t Your Fault (And You’re Not “Being Dramatic”)
Teachers are wired to care.
About your pupils.
Your own kids.
Your colleagues.
Your family.
Your friends.
You hold the emotional weight of entire classrooms during term time… and then switch straight into holding the emotional weight of your own home during the holidays.
That’s full-time caregiving, twice.
From one parent to another:
If you’re exhausted, it makes sense.
If you’re overwhelmed, that tracks.
If you feel guilty for not enjoying every moment, you’re human.
Let’s break the cycle — without making your life more complicated.
The Holiday Stress Solution: Start Smaller Than You Think
Here’s where those PN-inspired insights come in.
Not the giant plan.
Not the “new term, new me” overhaul.
Not the colour-coded spreadsheet of dreams.
Just two foundational practices:
1. Make Time
2. Take a 5-Minute Action
These are deceptively simple.
And they work because they respect reality — not fantasy.
1. Make Time: A Tiny Act With Massive Benefits
Making time isn’t about hours.
It’s about intention.
Think of it as sending a message to your brain:
“I matter. My wellbeing matters.”
It might look like:
10 minutes before the kids wake
a short walk while they’re on the playground
listening to something uplifting while folding laundry
a daily check-in before bed
booking 30 minutes on the calendar as if you were booking a meeting with a headteacher
Why it works:
It brings back structure
It stops your day being hijacked
It helps you notice your true capacity
It forces you to negotiate — kindly — for your own needs
It builds the skill of planning around real life
If you don’t make time, time gets taken from you.
Simple as that.
2. Take a 5-Minute Action: Momentum Beats Motivation
Motivation is unreliable.
Action is reliable.
Even tiny action.
A 5-minute step might be:
one drawer tidy
one healthy snack prepped
one paragraph read
one stretch
one small batch of marking
one email draft
one load of washing moved from washer to dryer
one drink of water
Small actions create momentum.
They break the “stuck” feeling.
They gently restart the engine.
You don’t need a holiday transformation.
You need a holiday pivot.
How Teachers Can Use These Two Tools During Long Breaks
Here are some options you can adapt — nothing fancy, nothing elaborate.
Simple Daily Check-In
Ask yourself:
How am I feeling?
What do I need?
What’s one tiny thing that would help today?
That’s it.
Worst-Case-Scenario Planning
Plan based on real life:
Kids fighting
Weather ruining outings
No childcare
Family drop-ins
Zero personal space
Then identify 1–2 actions that would still be doable even in that chaos.
The “One Corner” Strategy
Instead of “sorting the house”, pick one corner:
a cupboard
a bag
a drawer
a landing spot
Five minutes.
Done.
Momentum created.
Micro-Moments of Rest
Rest doesn’t have to be big.
Try:
sitting with your tea and doing nothing for 120 seconds
closing your eyes while the kids watch TV
walking to the shop without scrolling your phone
doing absolutely nothing in the car before going inside
It all counts.
Permission to Lower the Bar
Progress > perfection.
Holiday rest isn’t about becoming a new version of you.
It’s about becoming a functioning version of you.
When Stress Turns Into Something Bigger
If your long holidays leave you consistently:
flat
irritable
overwhelmed
detached
permanently tired
guilty
dreading school
snapping at your partner or kids
…it might be more than holiday stress.
It might be burnout creeping in.
And you don’t need to handle that alone.
If You’re a Teacher Reading This, Here’s What I Want You to Hear
You’re not weak.
You’re not failing.
You’re not “bad at holidays”.
You’re a human running a marathon pace all year, then being handed another marathon the second you walk through the door at home.
As a parent, I see you.
As a coach, I’ve supported countless people stuck in this exact loop.
As someone who crawled through the last summer, I’ve lived it myself.
And the way out isn’t dramatic.
It’s small, doable, compassionate change.
Want Help Untangling Your Stress Before It Becomes Burnout?
If any of this feels a bit too close to home, let’s talk.
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It’ll show you where you’re at, and what steps might help next.
You deserve a life — and holidays — that replenish you, not drain you.
Let’s build that together.
Nico.